AI: I’m Not a Homophobe, But…
At the example of the “Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin” Christian motto (apparently Google assigns it to Gandhi? Not sure that’s accurate), our grown-up bullies tend to create increasingly irrational wordplays to shield themselves from being called – the horror! – homophobes.
Tip: if you feel the need to start any of your sentences with “I’m not a homophobe…”, uh, you probably are.
The last one I heard, and possibly the one I get more often, was via Facebook (what a surprise, right? Such a safe place…), and went something like “I’d like you to know I’m not a homophobe, but don’t you think gay marriage is kind of just making things worse? Wouldn’t you guys rather lessen your exposure a little bit?”, a slight variation of the great “I’m not a homophobe, but maybe you guys could respect us enough to keep it private?” (Maybe we should just stay closeted? Cease to exist? *sigh*)
What about you guys? What’s the worst “I’m not a homophobe, but…” sentence you’ve ever heard? What’s the one you get more often? How often do you hear this kind of “argument”? What’s your usual response to it?
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