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Baby, it’s Consent Outside

Baby, it’s Consent Outside

So this is what my spouse and I got up to tonight, since the holidays are coming up AND it’s cold and snowy in Chicago. I thought I’d share it with all of you. Visual description for those who can’t see the video: Two people (me and my spouse) sitting on a couch. We start out kissing before they start singing and hold hands through the video. Transcript: To the tune of “Bab... »

Driver’s License Update

Driver’s License Update

Last week I wrote about my first attempt at getting an Illinois drivers license. It didn’t go well, and I planned to return with a college transcript as proof of my birthdate. On Thursday I got my transcript in the mail. Transcripts are only official if they are still sealed in their original envelope so I took it to the DMV without opening it. When it was opened by the nice woman behind the... »

In Which I Attempt To Get a New Driver’s License

In Which I Attempt To Get a New Driver’s License

I moved from Wisconsin to Illinois a year ago, but I had no reason to update my driver’s license until now. I have gotten a new job and for complex reasons it requires that I have a driver’s license with my current address on it so I went to go get this done. Getting a valid ID can be complicated for a lot of people, but for trans* people who have had our name and/or gender changed on ... »

Responses to Your Search Terms – Gay Men Edition!

Responses to Your Search Terms – Gay Men Edition!

CN: Sex and sexuality, anal sex, toxic masculinity. Captain Awkward does this cool thing where she occasionally writes posts in which she responds to questions that people have typed into Google that lead them to her blog. I think this is brilliant, so I am going to do the same. This will be done occasionally, basically when I have the time and when there are interesting search terms to address! T... »

Moving the Goalpost on Polyamorous Success

Moving the Goalpost on Polyamorous Success

A few weeks ago Miri from Brute Reason on Freethought Blogs wrote a post for The Friendly Atheist called Debunking Four Myths about Polyamory. It was also cross posted to her blog and her Facebook page. The post itself was fine, but I found myself reading through the comments on The Friendly Atheist site and dwelling on a criticism of polyamory that I see crop up fairly often. The basic complaint ... »

HIV Researchers and Activists Killed Onboard Malaysia Airlines Flight

HIV Researchers and Activists Killed Onboard Malaysia Airlines Flight

Update 7/20/14: News reports are now listing the number of researchers killed as 6. While still an important loss of knowledge in the world of AIDS and HIV research, it is not as extreme as originally reported. Original Post: According to TIME Magazine the Malaysia Airlines flight 17 that was apparently shot down over Ukraine yesterday had on board approximately 100 researchers and activists heade... »

Queerview Mirror: Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser

Content note: Discussion of Pickup Artist culture, BDSM, mentions of rape but no graphic details in my review. BIG trigger warnings for rape descriptions in the book itself. I’ve recently read “Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser: Long Interviews With Hideous Men” by Clarisse Thorn. I got it on Kindle and it is also available in paperback. This book is by a straight woman about... »

Math, I Will Conquer You Yet

Math, I Will Conquer You Yet

This may be a story about my tenacity and determination. It may be a story about my inability to see reason and quit an unwinnable war. It is a somewhat long story, but far less long for you than it has been for me. I hope you will bear with me. The story started in 1994, when I started 7th grade. I had done well in 6th grade math, in a school where “doing well” was defined as being ab... »

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