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Phil Plait Gets An Apology Very Right

Phil Plait Gets An Apology Very Right

Over the weekend Dr. Phil Plait, also known as the Bad Astronomer, put up an episode of his really cool show Crash Course Astronomy. I LOVE the Crash Course series and use them as review for classes regularly. Dr. Plait’s show is particularly good if you like Astronomy and want to learn more. However, the episode this weekend included a problematic joke. The joke was fairly mild, but cissexi... »

Trans Visibility Means Never Assuming Cisgender Status

Trans Visibility Means Never Assuming Cisgender Status

Earlier this week was Transgender Day of Visibility. I struggled a little bit with what to say about this, because I work to be visible in my life. While I am often mistaken for a cisgender man by those who don’t know me, I’m quick to come out, unabashed about my transgender history, and basically unwilling to be mistaken as cis for long. In fact, not being visible is incredibly uncomf... »

Recommended Reading – Non-White and Non-Male authors

Recommended Reading – Non-White and Non-Male authors

Some folks have been making a commitment to spending a year reading books written by anyone but white men. I love this idea, though it’s not a commitment I can make right now because I’m a student and most of my reading is done for classes. However, I did want to take the opportunity to recommend some of my favorite books for those who are looking for some recommendations! However, unl... »

In Testosterone Veritas

In Testosterone Veritas

On Cracked yesterday a trans man named Roman Jones wrote about 6 Awful Lessons I Learned Transitioning from Female to Male. Some of the stuff in there felt similar to my experiences, though it’s been awhile (9 years) since I had to bind and much of this stuff applies more to the transition process than the stage of life I’m at now. I found his commentary about medical care especially o... »

Are Your Commitments Really So Fragile?

Are Your Commitments Really So Fragile?

Did you know you’re being unfaithful to your partner if you talk to other people? According to Gary and Joy Lundberg (who apparently can’t even write an article without each other) over on FamilyShare you are being unfaithful to your spouse and don’t even know it.. They consider a whole range of things to be tantamount to cheating, such as sending condolence letters and calling y... »

Changing Times: Unexpected Side Effects

Changing Times: Unexpected Side Effects

I come from a large extended family. My parents are from one of those religious traditions where people tend to have a lot of kids, so I have more than my fair share of aunts, uncles, and cousins. Until recently I hadn’t seen any of them in over half my lifetime. I did not attend my grandmothers’ funerals, my cousins’ weddings, or any other extended family function for 16 years. ... »

Baby, it’s Consent Outside

Baby, it’s Consent Outside

So this is what my spouse and I got up to tonight, since the holidays are coming up AND it’s cold and snowy in Chicago. I thought I’d share it with all of you. Visual description for those who can’t see the video: Two people (me and my spouse) sitting on a couch. We start out kissing before they start singing and hold hands through the video. Transcript: To the tune of “Bab... »

Driver’s License Update

Driver’s License Update

Last week I wrote about my first attempt at getting an Illinois drivers license. It didn’t go well, and I planned to return with a college transcript as proof of my birthdate. On Thursday I got my transcript in the mail. Transcripts are only official if they are still sealed in their original envelope so I took it to the DMV without opening it. When it was opened by the nice woman behind the... »

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