Bisexuality

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 2

Dae January 20, 2013

This is the second part of two; the first half was posted yesterday. 5. “You’re just doing it/saying that for attention.” This is something of a sub-myth to 2 and 3, but it gets its own spot because it is rampant (applied to women; I’ve never heard it applied to men, but please comment if you have, as I am curious) and extremely offensive. Everything said in 2-3 applies, but there’s the added b... »

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 1

Dae January 19, 2013

There are a lot of things I am going to say in this article that I hope will generally be met with a resounding “duh,” but that repeated experience has shown me aren’t nearly as obvious as they should be (shocker!). I’m writing here for the bisexual who’s considering coming out, the bisexual who (like me until fairly recently) is mostly out but not comfortable claimi... »

Sunday School: On Negativity

Rachel May 27, 2012

I’m a bisexual ciswoman with limited experience on the same-sex end of the pool thanks to my profession and hobbies, despite the fact that I’m actually attracted to women more often than men. I want to date women, but I’ve experienced a nontrivial amount of negativity and erasure from lesbians, and that makes me nervous about trying to enter lesbian spaces. While I know that anyo... »

Bisexuality and Sexual Fluidity

Bellis January 30, 2012

Recently, Cynthia Nixon (or Miranda, as we all know her), told the New York Times’ Alex Witchel that being gay is a choice for her. Then, in another interview, she told Kevin Sessums of The Daily Beast that she is bi, but doesn’t identify as bi, saying, CN: …I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals. KS: But ... »

Why So Curious?

Bip January 13, 2012

A few years ago when I first started to think about both my gender and sexuality in terms that I’d never broached before, and having never been in a relationship, I decided to confide in a close relative of mine over dinner. I mentioned that I thought I could be attracted to women as well, if not more so. This was met by the unexpectedly mocking retort, “Well, see how you do with men first!” I co... »