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Deep Stealth Mode

A small girl sings Let it Go from Frozen as tears stream down my face. It’s the drop of water that breaks the dam. Crying is dangerous. I’m flying at 70 mph past Rochester NY on the first leg of a 3000 mile drive to a new life in California. …

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So What If I Wasn’t Born This Way

The “born this way” story of queer identity is one most people in modern developed countries know well. It is applied to people of all sexual orientations and to trans people, especially binary trans people, and tells us that the right way to be queer follows a common structure. We …

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My Gender Is Orange: Coming Out As–And Explaining–Genderqueer

[CN: Bullying, Gender Dysphoria] Whenever I tell someone I’m genderqueer, the first thing people usually ask is, “What’s that?” Most people understand the L and G of LGBTQIAA, but when it comes to the other letters, they are usually clueless. Two years before coming out as genderqueer, I already confused …

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Iceman is gay because a straight telepath said so.

If you’re a comic book fan you probably already know that Iceman of the X-Men has been outed as gay. It’s been covered extensively in the press and that, I think, is a good thing representation.Or rather it would be in any other circumstance. In the past I’ve felt ambivalent …

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So You Came Out on April 1st

So… If you are reading this post, there is a good chance that you just came out as Queer (Trans*, Bi+, lesbian, gay, asexual, aromantic, non-binary gender, or some version of non-normative sexuality or gender) on Facebook. Under normal conditions, I would give you a hearty congratulations, an offer to treat …

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The Internet Helped Me Come Out But Made Me Terrified of Lesbians

It was 3 am on a Friday night my sophomore year of college. I was lying in bed next to one of my friends, she snuggled closer to me, the perpetual blanket thief, and I looked at her and realized consciously for the first time that these feelings I was …

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Coming Out Story: From Fundamentalism to Acceptance

Today’s Coming Out Story is mine, but also involves the coming out of my best friend, Erik. I share our story with his permission. My best friend is Erik, a lanky boy I met on the school bus when we were both in the 4th grade. We bonded because we were …

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Movie Review: 50 Shades of Snore

 Who knew BDSM on the big screen could be so boring? 50 Shades of Grey is the first in a trilogy of Twilight-fan-fiction-turned-erotic-bestsellers by E.L. James. In the movie adaptation, which premiered in theaters yesterday, Dakota Johnson plays Anastasia Steele, a young college senior who runs afoul of the cold …