Coming Out

Coming Out Stories: The Long Ride Home

Coming Out Stories: The Long Ride Home

“So Vince, what did you want to talk about?” Anthony asked from the front seat while mom pulled onto the highway heading for Springfield. I froze. In the darkness of the back of the car SUV, I wanted to disappear. I wished for a moment to be the debris on my little sister’s booster seat, a crumb of Os, ground into the fibers of the seat so I could be sucked up by the vacuum. “Can we wait a little ... »

Where are all the LGBT scientists at?

Where are all the LGBT scientists at?

I’m in the ongoing process of being out in a couple of life aspects, being gay and atheistic, (gaytheistic?) which involves a bunch of references to my boyfriend in casual conversation and honest but non-confrontational answers to questions like “So where do you go to church”. I try to be the best “normalizing” presence that I can be so that the benefits of visibility... »

Coming Out Stories: To Be Determined

Coming Out Stories: To Be Determined

Last week, I wrote about coming out as asexual.  But as I mentioned, that isn’t my entire story.  The rest of the story is about one of the shortcomings of coming out.  Coming out is an important tool for awareness raising and putting faces to marginalized identities.  However, it is very hard to come out if you aren’t sure exactly what to come out as. This is, in some ways, me coming out.  I have... »

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Who among us doesn’t have a complicated relationship with the idea and the act of coming out?  Though the term ‘coming out,’ particularly when associated with the idea of ‘the closet,’ makes it sound like a one-time thing, coming out is really a never ending process.  We stop coming out only when we stop learning about ourselves and we stop meeting new people. First, we have to come out to ourselv... »

Bisexual but not Binary

Bisexual but not Binary

Hi y’all.* I’m a new contributor to Queereka! This post is about how I came to terms with my bisexuality and the term “bisexual” as a gray-A, non-binary person. I grew up in a small town in PA. No one was gay. “Gay” was just an insult boys hurled at each other. When a family friend got divorced, the rumors that he was gay were just ugly insults, until years late... »

Coming Out Stories: A New Woman

Coming Out Stories: A New Woman

Note: This posts contains mature content. Both image links go to websites with adult content. If you’ve glanced at my biography, you’ll notice that I am a trans* woman. To simplify it, when I was born the doctor said I was a boy based off of my genitals. However, as I have aged I have realized that that was incorrect. I am a girl, a woman, female. To many this appears to be a choice. P... »

Coming Out Doesn’t Solve All Problems

Coming Out Doesn’t Solve All Problems

I sincerely hope that in the rush to promote the coming out process, that the message doesn’t come across that it’s an end of sorts. Yet the more I see about coming out stories, they tend to fall into two categories: triumphant messages of hope that involve instant acceptance and miserable blow ups that sever families,tearing them apart. Unfortunately, there is plenty of space in betwe... »

Queereka Podcast Episode 2

Queereka Podcast Episode 2

The second episode is up! You can listen to the episode here. You can also find us on iTunes or use the RSS feed here: http://www.podcastgarden.com/podcast/podcast-rss.php?id=1127 In this episode you will hear coming out stories from 4 people. Spacey tells us about coming out as an Atheist, Julia tells us about coming out as a trans woman in her career, Kaouru tells us about coming out as bisexual... »

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