Family

Family Meme Time

Family Meme Time

What do you do when a normally cool close family member sends you an obnoxious meme? My Dad and I send each other gross and funny stuff off the internet all the time. We’re close, and share a similar wicked sense of humor and appreciation for outlandish pranks. Despite my parents’ divorce when I was very little, he has always been an involved and supportive presence in my life. I’... »

Changing Times: Unexpected Side Effects

Changing Times: Unexpected Side Effects

I come from a large extended family. My parents are from one of those religious traditions where people tend to have a lot of kids, so I have more than my fair share of aunts, uncles, and cousins. Until recently I hadn’t seen any of them in over half my lifetime. I did not attend my grandmothers’ funerals, my cousins’ weddings, or any other extended family function for 16 years. ... »

Queer + Holidays: A Real-life Guide to Surviving

Queer + Holidays: A Real-life Guide to Surviving

Every year, I watch as younger and younger kids come out to their families. Now kids are coming out in kindergarten. Our world is slowing changing for the better in that regard. When I was a child, no-one was coming out that I knew, and when I went to college and finally did come out, it was the same for all my friends. College was a new world where we could start to be ourselves just a little bit... »

Still Waiting After All These Years: FDA and Gay Blood Donation

Still Waiting After All These Years: FDA and Gay Blood Donation

Update (December 30, 2014): The FDA recently announced that it would relax the lifetime ban on blood donation for men who have sex with men. Instead of banning all men who have had sex with men after 1976 for life the new rule permits gay men who have been celibate for a year to donate. This rule does not make exceptions for monogamous partnerships. It’s not the comprehensive, behavioral ris... »

Coming Out Stories: The Long Ride Home

Coming Out Stories: The Long Ride Home

“So Vince, what did you want to talk about?” Anthony was in the front seat while mom pulled onto the highway home. I froze. In the darkness of the back of the car, I wanted to disappear. I envied the crumbs of Os, ground into the fibers of little sister’s booster seat, their finality, their doneness. “Can we wait a little bit please?” Yeah. Great idea, delay the inevitable. Let’s do this like pull... »

Meeting the Parents and Putting on a Show

Meeting the Parents and Putting on a Show

It’s been a chaotic time. In the past month or so I’ve met with the committee that decides whether or not my research direction is fit to ride to graduation. My boyfriend moved in with me, burying the apartment in boxes and kitchen appliances. My performance in my most recent class generated a bureaucratic quantum superposition for me, meaning that I’m both failing and passing si... »

Let It Go, Already – The Frozen Agenda

Let It Go, Already – The Frozen Agenda

(Originally written last Wednesday.) This morning I was shuffling down the highway toward a science museum in the mom-van with the three kids in the back, watching Frozen. Like you do. Because it’s school vacation week around these parts. And because FROZEN. And as my daughter (first grade) was belting out “Let It Go” for the eighty bazillionth time, my mind started wandering to that blog post by ... »

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Who among us doesn’t have a complicated relationship with the idea and the act of coming out?  Though the term ‘coming out,’ particularly when associated with the idea of ‘the closet,’ makes it sound like a one-time thing, coming out is really a never ending process.  We stop coming out only when we stop learning about ourselves and we stop meeting new people. First, we have to come out to ourselv... »

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