Family

Meeting the Parents and Putting on a Show

Meeting the Parents and Putting on a Show

It’s been a chaotic time. In the past month or so I’ve met with the committee that decides whether or not my research direction is fit to ride to graduation. My boyfriend moved in with me, burying the apartment in boxes and kitchen appliances. My performance in my most recent class generated a bureaucratic quantum superposition for me, meaning that I’m both failing and passing si... »

Let It Go, Already – The Frozen Agenda

Let It Go, Already – The Frozen Agenda

(Originally written last Wednesday.) This morning I was shuffling down the highway toward a science museum in the mom-van with the three kids in the back, watching Frozen. Like you do. Because it’s school vacation week around these parts. And because FROZEN. And as my daughter (first grade) was belting out “Let It Go” for the eighty bazillionth time, my mind started wandering to that blog post by ... »

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Coming Out Stories: Holding Hands with the Nonperson I’m Not Dating

Who among us doesn’t have a complicated relationship with the idea and the act of coming out?  Though the term ‘coming out,’ particularly when associated with the idea of ‘the closet,’ makes it sound like a one-time thing, coming out is really a never ending process.  We stop coming out only when we stop learning about ourselves and we stop meeting new people. First, we have to come out to ourselv... »

To Katie and Arin

To Katie and Arin

Hey there, ya’ll. You don’t know me, and even if I’m lucky enough to have a few moments of your time, we still won’t be all that close by the end of this letter. That’s fair, since I don’t know ya’ll beyond the news either. Well, maybe a little bit more than the headlines, but anyways, that’s where I found your story. And like many reading it or watching the clips, I was moved in the way anyone se... »

Aces, another DOMA post!

Aces, another DOMA post!

Unnecessary yet obligatory reminder: this morning, the Supreme Court struck down the lion’s share of the Defense of Marriage Act. In the best of all possible worlds, we at Queereka HQ would be out dancing in the streets; since we don’t live in that world, we’ll settle for a moment of quiet satisfaction and a cute nod from Google. Some of us will also have an ill-advised celebrato... »

Supreme Court Ruling

Supreme Court Ruling

Although you have probably read about it elsewhere, today the Supreme Court of the United States ruled on cases regarding Proposition 8 in California and the Defense of Marriage Act. They found that the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional, which means that the federal rights of marriage (filing taxes together, immigration issues, etc) will be extended to same sex couples who are legally marri... »

AI: Allies Amongst Us

AI: Allies Amongst Us

So this week on French class, we reached that special time on the learning of any language where we’re expected to learn how to talk about families. Our textbook brought up familles recomposées, that is, family outside the father-mother-children standards, which the teacher saw as an opportunity to debate same-sex marriage. There’s something about teachers that makes me always expect them to be re... »

Chivalry’s Not Dead: Surprise Parents

Chivalry’s Not Dead: Surprise Parents

I have no idea how I missed this story, which came out in The New York Times’ Opinionator blog on February 28th. More than a decade ago, a man called Danny found an abandoned baby in a subway station. He frantically phoned his partner, Peter, saying that the police hadn’t believed his story. Eventually the baby was taken into protective care and the processing began. When Danny went to... »

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