Why “I’m Okay With It As Long As I Don’t Have To See It” Is Still Bigotry

[CN: Homophobia, Slurs, Violence] This morning in his Washington Post column, Steven Petrow writes about a same-sex couple who was recently kicked out of a bar for kissing. According to reports, after Andrew Deras gave his partner Dustin Baker a “very minor” kiss on the lips in a bar, the …

Art & MediaComing OutGenderHomophobiaTransgender

Deep Stealth Mode

A small girl sings Let it Go from Frozen as tears stream down my face. It’s the drop of water that breaks the dam. Crying is dangerous. I’m flying at 70 mph past Rochester NY on the first leg of a 3000 mile drive to a new life in California. …


Why (I Think) Humanism Is A Better Option For Queer People Than Religion

The following blog post is an updated version of something I wrote on my blog a few months ago. A few months ago, Alex Gabriel wrote a piece called Jesus was not a queer ally. In it, he reminds readers that Jesus never said anything about homosexuality, and, therefore, it does …

ayann hirsi ali

We Have More To Worry About Than Not Getting Cake, Ayaan Hirsi Ali

[CN: HOMOPHOBIA, TRANSPHOBIA, VIOLENCE] Last week at the 2015 American Atheists convention, Ayaan Hirsi Ali gave a keynote address about the dangers of radical Islam. I haven’t seen the entire video, but from all accounts it was a powerful speech about the threat Islamic extremists pose on the world. Except …

coming out stories
BisexualityComing OutGayGenderHomophobiaReligionSex & Sexuality

Coming Out Story: From Fundamentalism to Acceptance

Today’s Coming Out Story is mine, but also involves the coming out of my best friend, Erik. I share our story with his permission. My best friend is Erik, a lanky boy I met on the school bus when we were both in the 4th grade. We bonded because we were …

ActivismBisexualityBreaking NewsDiscriminationFamilyFeaturedGayHealth / MedicineHistoryHIV / AIDS / STDsHomophobiaRaceScienceSex & Sexuality

Still Waiting After All These Years: FDA and Gay Blood Donation

Update (December 30, 2014): The FDA recently announced that it would relax the lifetime ban on blood donation for men who have sex with men. Instead of banning all men who have had sex with men after 1976 for life the new rule permits gay men who have been celibate …

rainbow coalition
Art & MediaBisexualityDiscriminationFeaturedGayGenderGenderqueerHomophobiaMedia Portrayals of LGBT

Gay Wizards: Role Playing Games and LGBT Inclusivity

Wizards of the Coast quietly made a stir recently with the release of the new Basic Rules for the 5th Edition of Dungeons and Dragons. Nestled on page 33 is a section about determining the sex/gender of a character that makes the inclusion of LGBT characters explicit. “You can play …

An Unfortunate Phrase

An Unfortunate Phrase

“I don’t agree with being gay but…” If you are queer in this world, or even if you’re straight, you’ve probably heard this unfortunate phrase, or some permutation of it. “I don’t agree with being gay but…” Usually by the time they get to the “but” part I’m so angry …