Pansexuality

Accidentally Gay

Accidentally Gay

There are a couple of great articles that discuss bisexuality and pansexuality here on Queereka, and on Skepchick. I’d be remiss if I didn’t point to them first, before forging ahead with my own discussion on the topic. There is an amazing article on pansexuality by Heina Dadabhoy, and an amazing article on what not to say to your bisexual acquaintances by Dae. One thing that happens when you do d... »

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 2

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 2

This is the second part of two; the first half was posted yesterday. 5.  “You’re just doing it/saying that for attention.”  This is something of a sub-myth to 2 and 3, but it gets its own spot because it is rampant (applied to women; I’ve never heard it applied to men, but please comment if you have, as I am curious) and extremely offensive.  Everything said in 2-3 applies, but there’s the added b... »

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 1

Myths and Misconceptions about Bisexuality (or, “What not to say to your bisexual acquaintances”): Part 1

There are a lot of things I am going to say in this article that I hope will generally be met with a resounding “duh,” but that repeated experience has shown me aren’t nearly as obvious as they should be (shocker!).  I’m writing here for the bisexual who’s considering coming out, the bisexual who (like me until fairly recently) is mostly out but not comfortable claimi... »

Sunday School: On Trusting One’s Instincts

Sunday School: On Trusting One’s Instincts

I’m polyamorous and bisexual. I’m in two serious relationships right now, one with a woman in the early stages of MTF transition, one with a man who has recently discovered that he is a transvestic fetishist. His discovery has led me to realize that I’m attracted to non-gender-conforming people. I think androgyny and genderfuckery are hot. That kind of worries me. Partly, I’... »

Why So Curious?

Why So Curious?

A few years ago when I first started to think about both my gender and sexuality in terms that I’d never broached before, and having never been in a relationship, I decided to confide in a close relative of mine over dinner. I mentioned that I thought I could be attracted to women as well, if not more so. This was met by the unexpectedly mocking retort, “Well, see how you do with men first!”  I co... »