Sex & Sexuality

Do I Look Gay?

Do I Look Gay?

I recently watched a pair of YouTube videos in which a young man, MarkE Miller, asked people (one video girls, one video guys) on a college campus essentially if they thought he looked gay.  Now, at least part of the point of the questions and the videos were to create awkward situations.  At that, Miller was certainly successful.  However, he also seemed to be attempting to judge people’s attitud... »

Why I can’t stand neo-segregationists

Why I can’t stand neo-segregationists

As is my wont, I was hovering spectrally in the internet’s howling dark when my friend sent me a message with a link to this trainwreck on Salon.com, along with the demand that I “tell her why this article rubs her the wrong way.” With gusto! The article is titled, “Why I can’t stand white belly dancers,” which for a lesser man would be reason enough to nope rig... »

Queereka Podcast Episode 3

Queereka Podcast Episode 3

The second episode is up! You can listen to the episode here. You can also find us on iTunes or use the RSS feed here: http://www.podcastgarden.com/podcast/podcast-rss.php?id=1127 In this episode you will hear me and Cheyenne (a former Queereka writer) discuss sex work and sex worker rights. Cheyenne’s other work includes The Academy of Queerlesque and the book “The Devil’s Mercy... »

Myths about sex workers

Myths about sex workers

Warning, this article may challenge long held ideas about sex work and sex workers causing cognitive dissonance and strong emotional reactions. If your worldview is reliant on these misconceptions this may cause psychological distress.   Disclaimer; This is by no means a comprehensive list of all myths about sex work or sex workers, the tone is mildly satirical in areas to highlight important... »

a copper IUD

The IUD Option: Stigma, Falsehoods, and Shaming

This confession may come as a shock to some: I have never been in love with menstruation. The dread of a surprise attack, cramps, the discomfort of cotton wads crammed where no wads of cotton should be. While still respecting those who savor their bloody womanhood, I grew up wishing that I could do anything to turn off that monthly hell. When I first started college I jumped on birth control pills... »

AI: Flagging

AI: Flagging

Being of a femme-ish presentation (more tomboy, or just ‘gamer,’ really), I am assumed to be straight by nearly all of the people I meet.  This is annoying, though something I’m unfortunately quite used to.  A recent internet white rabbit hunt had me reading about femme flagging using colored nail polish, and thence to the hanky code and other sartorial signals historically or currently used to co... »

I am Queer: Beyond the Trans/Cis Binary

I am Queer: Beyond the Trans/Cis Binary

I do not feel or identify as trans. I also do not feel or identify as cis. I am comfortable being male-bodied. I am uncomfortable calling myself “man.” I do not feel that I am a woman. In some ways, I feel like a boy—as if I never went through the cultural transitions of puberty, only the physiological ones (I am an adult, by the way. I do not want my language here to portray the idea that I “neve... »

Myths and Misconceptions About Kink

Myths and Misconceptions About Kink

Our culture is full of myths, misconceptions, and confusion about kink, BDSM, and fetishes. We’re going to address 10 of them here; 5 in this article and another coming soon. For each of the misconceptions there will be two answers: one from Benny and one from Cheyenne. That way you can get two different perspectives, but it is also worth saying that like any other identity we can’t sp... »

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