Welcome to the first Queereka Afternoon Inqueery (AI)! Carrying on with the great Skepchick tradition, Queereka will pose questions to its readers to answer each Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday afternoon.
Seeing as it’s the third day of this new year, I thought I’d wander a bit towards the cliché. It’s the time of year where we are bombarded with New Year’s Resolutions. Usually the Resolutions tend toward big life changes, including completely changing diet, joining a gym and exercising regularly, completely getting out of debt, changing personality traits (less grumpy, more happy!), quitting smoking/drinking/drugging, and so on and so forth.
But did you know that a recent study by psychologist and skeptic Richard Wiseman showed that only 12% of New Year’s Resolutions are successful? Like other goals, one way that psychologists recommend making resolutions into smaller, easier-to-accomplish steps by spreading it out over the year. It’s also important to get lots of social support for the big ones!
Two years ago, I made a New Year’s Resolution to quit smoking. But I did not make the resolution on New Year’s Eve and start the next day, that would just been a set up for failure (based on my experiences of trying that exact thing…multiple times….). What helped me actually keep the resolution on that occaision was a lot of planning ahead, mentally preparing myself, and telling everyone I knew what I was planning to do and asking them for their support. I asked people to keep their negative comments about how many times I’d tried to quit before to themselves, and instead encourage me to keep going. And, you know what? It actually worked.
So the idea is to make our grand goals into smaller, bite-sized chunks that we can more easily tackle. This way, we can chip away at our resolution instead of trying to take it all on at once.
What are three things you want to accomplish in 2012 in pursuit of a larger goal?
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