Hello there and happy Tuesday afternoon.
I used to be really scared to talk in front of groups of people. Just speaking up in class would often be accompanied by a racing heartbeat and a burst of adrenaline. Actually getting up in front of a class to give a presentation was worse than a nightmare. My shakey voice would stutter along, fumbling nervously as quickly as possible toward the finishing line.
At some point, this all changed. I think just being forced to do it over and over in many different situations helped. What also helped was having to get up in front of a group of 12-13 year olds last summer on the first day of an enrichment program and introduce myself and explain what I do and who I am. There’s nothing quite as frightening as facing down a group of tweens who are looking for any sign of weakness to exploit. After doing that, nothing seems to faze me about getting up in front of groups anymore.
What kinds of social situations tend to (or used to) make you flustered or nervous? Why? How do (or did) you “deal” with it?
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