This week, someone whose blog I follow wrote a post complaining about complaints that her blog was cissexist. Now, I had never seen cissexism in her writing (though I may have missed it due to my own privilege), and she’s a feminist who so far seemed to be quite an ally to the LGBTQ community. The response was (predictably) bad, to which she wrote a follow-up post saying, basically, people should get their heads out of their asses with the whole “cis privilege” talk, and that she doesn’t believe such privilege exists.
To me, it looks like she has just never needed to reexamine her own privileges that way. Because why would someone agree that male privilege (and therefore, sexism), white privilege (and therefore, racism) and straight privilege (and therefore, homophobia) all exist, but deny the existence of cis privilege?
(Boy, that was a lot of “privilege”s in one sentence).
And while I’m not going to call her out on it, because it would get lost in a sea of other comments and I probably wouldn’t be taken seriously, this situation could be transported into so many of my daily relationships that I thought I’d ask:
How would you deal with this situation, had it been someone you know and respect? How do you figure is the best way for people to grasp what privilege means and understand they are favored by it? When do you think it is not worth trying?
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