For a while now, my family has been subtly bringing up the fact that I don’t have a boyfriend. It started up on Valentine’s day, and culminated on them almost harassing my friends for information (which they were kind enough not to give out).
While I can understand where their concern comes from – because I am twenty and haven’t brought up any romantic interesting for the past, huh, five years?; it still feels incredibly insulting – and that’s not even because I in fact do have a girlfriend, thank you very much.
It’s insulting because one, it shouldn’t be a reason for worry that I am focusing on studying harder than on getting a boyfriend, and two, because it seriously is no one’s business. These are people I don’t want to be out to, and my privacy should be respected, regardless of our relatedness.
So I wanted to ask:
Have you ever had to deal with this situation? How do you make it clear that being a relative does not entitle anyone to your privacy? How do you make them understanding it isn’t polite to worry about someone’s love life as if it’s all that matters?
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