So this my uncle told us that his girlfriend (accidentally) got pregnant, and the whole family is flipping out. Mostly, they’re saying she did it on purpose, naming her all kinds of foul names, and acting like he’s an innocent victim in all of this.
Now, he is 31 years old. They both have jobs. They have been together for a while. Why the hell are people acting like this is the end of his life and she is a major opportunist for getting pregnant? When I mentioned it takes two to make a baby, I actually heard back “yes, but it is a woman’s responsability to try and prevent it. Men can’t have it in their minds to control themselves”.
The kind of thouhgt that leads to these conclusions is recurrent in my family, but right now it seems way heavier than it should be. I am finding the situation unbearable, I can’t imagine how the girl is dealing with all the hostility towards her. So I turn to you:
Have you ever had to deal with a family reaction like this? How would you try to make it clear to everyone how out of line they are?
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