Lately there has been some discussion on Fetlife about the use of the word “cisgender” and it’s related terms. The conversations have been started by people who are offended by others labeling them cisgender NOT because it is an inaccurate description of their identity (these are definitely non-transgender people) but because they feel the term is offensive.
So far I have seen no other term proposed, these are just folks who are upset that there would even be a term to describe having one’s gender identity match the sex they were assigned at birth. They are, afterall, NORMAL. Furthermore, they argue, no one should put a label on them without their consent. All labels applied to identity should be decided only by the person being labeled – as if transgender people are allowed by society to decide weather or not we should be thus labeled!
The discussions that follow are usually well thought out and contain elegant arguments from people who are both transgender and cisgender about the importance of having language to use to discuss these matters, and how the term cisgender is about as non-offensive and neutral of a term as one could possibly have. I read these discussions, nod at the smart people, and…
Leave. I don’t contribute anymore. I don’t sit down and type out, for the 10th time, my own input. I can’t. I’m sick of getting caught up in debates where there is so little chance of making a difference. I’m thankful for those who do, by my energy for it has run out.
Are there any issues that you have given up on, and no longer get involved in debates over? Have you done that in the past and then eventually gotten the energy back for it? Have you seen this particular debate anywhere else? Is it okay for me to leave the discussion to others, especially because it is being argued well by other people?