I have been told many times by many people that I take my recreation far too seriously, that if I want to have ‘fun’ I need to stop turning all my play into work. I can somewhat see their point – all my hobbies ultimately become projects with deadlines, whether those deadlines are externally or internally imposed, and they do add to my already-high stress levels – but I don’t think I could stop functioning this way if I tried. Even the most innocuous activities (reading, plowing through Lost on Netflix) turn into “I need to finish this book/series/game so that I can talk to my friends about it,” and don’t even get me started on writing and costuming. It’s the feeling of accomplishment that creates a large part of the fun for me, so I’ve mostly made my peace with it, but sometimes it’s a hard balance to strike between enjoying my activities as much as possible and letting them run me ragged.
Where is the line between ‘work’ and ‘play’ for you? Do you have a tendency to pick up responsibilities or set goals in your recreational activities? Does it make it more or less enjoyable when you do?
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