Last week, there was a Slutwalk in the city where I leave. It was the first one I was able to attend, and came in a week marked by various protests and public manifestations here in Brazil, which made it bigger and better covered by the press. It was beautiful all the way.
Before the walk, we met at a public square downtown, and while we were waiting for people to arrive, making signs and painting our own bodies, a group of four of five men watched as the girls took off their shirts. They approached one of the leaders and started reading off of her body (she had “my body, my rules” on her stomach) and making jokes on her (which included taking off their own shirts and asking if they could be sluts as well).
She handled it well, and explained the aims of the walk to them all the while they stared at her boobs and laughed it off repeatedly. Eventually the crowd behind her became bigger than their little group and they left, saying they “respected our fight”, and the walk went on unscathed, though the scene of the five arrogant harassers kept coming back to my head.
The girl they targeted was one of the main speakers, she was used to responding to this kind of thing with a leveled head, managed to stay respectful and on topic the whole time, and still they made fun of it, refused to listen and blatantly objectified her while she explained how the walk condemns such objectification of women. Had it be me they targeted, I just know I would have been silence. Had it been any of the women that were just getting to know the movement, they would have been scared.
And all in all, I cannot see a “good” way to deal with harassers, especially when they think they’re being cute and funny, not threatening and disrespectful, especially when you’re somewhere that’s supposedly a safe space, free from such elements. So I ask:
How do you deal with harassment on your day-to-day life? How do you deal with it in safe spaces that are openly against harassment? Should it be part of the job, for the leaders of these movements, to handle this kind of aggression? How is it possible to keep harassers away from these movements when they should also try to be open and educational for the public?
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Featured image is the front banner of the Slutwalk in Rio de Janeiro.