A lot of people talk about “coming out” as one single event, something that you do once and then are done with. But strangers and acquaintances aren’t going to know that you’re queer just because you told your friends and family.
I always struggle with this, especially when I’m talking to a casual acquaintance. When my optometrist asks me how my life’s been in the year since she saw me last, do I mention my girlfriend? How about my boyfriend? My gender identity? I feel like if I talk about all of that, it’ll seem like I just want attention, or am trying to be “different.”
How do you decide how to come out, and when? Do you get tired of doing it over and over again?
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