Bullshit Infographic of the Week: “The Openness Spectrum”
This popped up in a friend of a friend’s newsfeed. Anyone notice the problem?
I’m in a polyamorous relationship myself. At the moment, I have a primary partner of 4.5 years, and much more recently, a girlfriend, who is married. Everyone knows about everyone. Everyone’s cool with everyone. Not getting along with my primary is a #1 dealbreaker, because I am in a committed relationship, damnit!
Wanna know a secret?
I’m poly because I don’t like casual sex, because I am not “sexually open” (whatever that means). It’s hard for me, for a number of reasons, to adjust to a new partner, and when I find the rare someone I can actually let my guard down around, I don’t want to give them up just because I already have someone I’m cool with. I don’t want to be afraid to get close to new people just because I might have feelings for them and lose my current relationship. I don’t do that with friends; why would I do that to lovers?
It’s frustrating that infographics that perpetuate these negative myths and stereotypes get dressed up as educational or progressive.